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How to Convince Your Parents and Get an Instant ‘Yes’

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Are you getting tired of that instant ‘no’ every time you asked your parents for things? We’ve all been there, sometimes. When it comes to decisions, parents play a significant role in your life to decide what is the best option for you.

However, sometimes their best decision doesn’t always seem be your best option. It’s not wrong to be a little bit persuasive to show your parents that your decisions matter, too. You have your own choices, and you just have to convince your parents about it. So, what should you do to overcome your parents disagreement?

It’s fairly easy, follow these steps on how to convince your parents.

Step 1: Prepare yourself

Being mentally prepare, is what you should do before you are having a talk with your parents. Before you decide to ask your parents for their approval, you have to prepare certain things that will help you to achieve what you want:

First thing first, get to know what you really want. Find more information about it, do a little research. Gather as much information as you can get. It might be perfect for you to predict what your parents will concern. For example, if you want to travel abroad, your parents will ask you, “Where are you going to? Who are you going with? When? Why?” or other questions related to it.

Be ready to answer those questions and prepare your best answer. Remember to explain it as clearly as you can, so they know you know exactly what you are talking about.

Consider the ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ for your choice that you will take. Now that you have figured out more information, there will be both ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ to deal with. It is not easy to lure your parents when there are more ‘cons’ than ‘pros’. But, if you really want to get it, you have to emphasize on the ‘pros’.

Write it out on a piece of paper. Create a table of ‘pros’ and ‘cons’, for you to determine the positive and negative impacts that could happen. Therefore, you should differentiate between Needs and Wants. You have to make sure you have set your priorities right and be realistic of things that you want. Then, you will know how to make your wants into realization.

No matter how much you want it, don’t lie to your parents about the consequences or the risks of your wants. That’s not how to convince your parents work. Be honest for your own sake.

Consider the right time to ask your parents. This is really important. You don’t want to get an instant ‘no’, do you? Get to think about the timing carefully. Study your parents behavior and notice small things that could be a hint on how your parents will react to you.

Don’t ask them in a poor situation, such as, in a moment of hurry or when your parents are doing something that makes them don’t pay attention to what you are saying. Also, avoid the time when your parents just got back from work or when you feel like they are not in a good mood. You know your parents best.

The right time won’t work if you are not in the right place. Choose the most comfortable area in your house, so you can talk with your parents in a laid back kind of situation. If you want to talk outside your house, such as, restaurants or cafe, avoid to talk to them in crowded place where they can’t focus on the conversation. Make sure you and your parents are settling in a nice place, safe and sound. If you pick the right time and place, it will increase your chance to get your parents approval.

Remember in this first step, you have to think about the things that you will be sacrifice your patience and effort for. Make sure it is worth the time.

Step 2: Convince them through your action

Walk the talk. Simply, because having the talk is just not enough. Your parents need to be convinced by your action. If you know talking to your parents won’t just make them approve your request, you have to change yourself in a positive way that will assure them. To prove them, you deserve it.

You can start off by doing small things. Change the way you view things, behave nicely. Parents are looking over you every once in a while. Parents love to see their children improving on the what’s important for them. Do your chores or earn good grades at school. If you behave nicely, it does not rule out the possibility that they will change their mind.

There is a saying, all roads lead to Rome, it has been used since medieval ages and became popular because most people can relate the phrase to a life journey. With the meaning, it does not matter what roads we take to reach it, we still have the one destination in mind. The same case with how to convince your parents. You have one goal, to convince your parents. All you have to do is to take whatever ways that will make you achieve it.

There are other ways to try on how to convince your parents. You can definitely try think of another plan or change your strategy.  What other things you can do for your parents? Make your parents feel special. If you can cook, make some meals for them. It will melt their heart away. Always keep in mind that, you can always do this. Not only when you want something from them.

Besides that, do show your responsibility in whatever you are doing. Show them that you are responsible for your choices. Sometimes, parents just want to see your seriousness. This point will work best, if previously your parents have seen your responsibility. If you had mistakes in the past, try to let go and open a new chapter of life. Convince your parents that you are not who you were in the past.

Is being responsible sufficient to make your parents trust you? Show your parents you are trustworthy. Bring up times when you earned their trust. Is it that time they give you a pet to look after? Or anything that proven your commitment. They mostly want to trust you.

This is the step when you begin to show who you really are. A good person? A well-behaved son? A nice daughter? Make your parents feel proud of you. You can’t expect something worth coming easy. Even if you are not doing good for your grades, keep reaching for it. Find ways to be the best version of you. You’ll eventually be there.

Step 3: Talk to your parents

It’s time to get in action. In this step, you should try your best to convince your parents. Don’t escalate the conversation and let it flow naturally. You can start by a normal conversation. Give hints or tell a story. For example, if you want a new bike, you can give them hints that you are in need of a new bike because they old one’s broken. State your obstacles and explain why it is a problem for you to have a broken bike, or why you need a new bike because the old one does not support your activities.

Get to the point, or else your parents will think you are not serious. You can open up the conversation by point out the needs, tell your parents that you are in need of it.

People say, “don’t raise your voice, improve your arguments.” It’s true. Especially, if it comes to when you have to talk to older people or even your parents. Keep your voice tone. Remain calm and under control when you are talking with your parents. You have to be patient and wait for their response. Don’t beg, ask maturely. Show them, that you are already grow up, and you will make a commitment as an adult. Never shout at your parents. Don’t use words that can hurt your parents at all cost.

Another thing to be highlighted is, you have to ask for their opinion. It is better to listen to your parents opinion first. You can find out what your parents thinking about things that you want. Then, you can arrange your opinion towards your parents to persuade them to agree with you. There’s a trick, if you’re a daddy’s girl or a mommy’s boy, try to talk to one, the most closest to you. Cling to one parent, your mother or your father, if you have to.

Don’t forget to bring up the benefits, explain to your parents why you desire the things you want, or be who you want to be. Also, the chances that it will bring benefit for you academically, or personally. Tell your parents the benefit they will get from granting your wishes.

Convincing your parents will cost you time and effort. They won’t easily accept your reasons and explanations. They need more and more commitment, probably because they have known you for so long. Some parents make deal with their children by negotiating. Here are some tips on compromising with your parents:

  • No Pain No Gain

It’s not easy to negotiate with your parents, but it is possible! It’s a good thing for you, if you can compromise or negotiate with your parents. It is a win-win solution. Your parents get what you want from you and vice versa. Nobody’s hurt.

  • Don’t Argue

However, don’t argue with them. You can speak up about your opinion, reasons, and explanation, but don’t get into a debate. If you get declined, take some time and prepare another strategy to convince your parents.  

  • Keep Your Promises

After you seal the deal, keep your promises. Avoid making promises you won’t keep. Do what you obliged to do, and avoid what nots that will break the deal. For instance, you want to buy a brand new shoes, but in regards your parents ask you to not coming home late and always do your chores for a week. So, you did it the whole week and succeeded. They bought you shoes. But when you didn’t make it as the deal, you didn’t get the shoes. You won’t lose this chance, right? Make the right decision by being wise.

What if they still not being convinced?

The last thing to do is to speak with your heart. Every parents wants the best for their children. Sometimes they don’t show it directly, but they want you to speak up with your intuition as their children.

Don’t worry, you can always work your own way with your own savings, if you want. So, you can provide your parents with a solution and give them more option. Let’s say you want a DSLR camera and you have saved your money for a quite long time, it covered up half the price, but how about another half? You can ask your parents for the half price to get a matching fund. That way, it will be easier for both you and your parents to actualize your wishes.

Be more appreciative of every single thing your parents have done for you. Ask your parents with gratitude and tell them how much you thank them for it. Don’t be mad with your parents if your wishes are not granted. It’s better to for you to looking forward to another option and keep moving on with your life.

Finally, those are the steps on how to convince your parents. Parents need to trust you. Once they are convinced enough, they will give you what you want. It will be a great thing if you can convince them, that you are working hard to earn it. Every children know their own parents best, after all. You don’t need any reason to not speak up for your own choices now. Simply because, now you know how to convince your parents.

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81 thoughts on “How to Convince Your Parents and Get an Instant ‘Yes’”

  1. Hello and good evening ma’am and sir, I answer the name Mahamat Ali Youssouf, I am student Chadian, I tros of difficulties on does not like which plan. in my country there are too many obstacles, for example; education, health, moreover, suffers tros in the last moment. then I graduated from bachelor’s degree scientific series in the year 2017/2018 until today I can not have had to study …

      1. Okay “bro” if you didn’t want to know you could of just not looked at it 😉. You must of been interested if you decided to read it.

      2. We know you’re jealous but you did not need to be this direct! To be this mean and straight forward you must be burning about the fact that he got somewhere and you didn’t you useless, spoilt brat! Now, if you don’t ever want me to roast you again, I suggest staying quiet. Don’t even think about commenting on anything else unless you’ve got something good to say.

  2. Ok honestly does not work for me I have been waiting patiently for this and today is chrismas you know what I will just kill myself best option

    1. Dont die think about the people you will leave behind, they will be hurting. It really isnt worth it if you think about it. I was once that way and im 13. Though through all the pain I went through I fought it. I believe in you and you can get through this. Just remember, “this to shall pass”. Love yourself please. It is not worth it.

    2. Eva, I really hope I’m not too late to say this. I used to have those thoughts as well, and I promise you, it gets better. Spend time with people, try to enjoy yourself, and most importantly, don’t give up on life. there’s always someone that cares about you. remember that. it’s possible to move on, and I believe in you to do All it takes is love yourself. to me, you seem like someone that deserves to love themselves! seriously, bro, don’t kill urself. YOU’RE WORTH IT!!! 🙂

      1. That reminds me of my Dad.. I want to be a cosplayer and get cat ears and cosplay as all kind of people from cartoons, anime, and etc but my Dad dosn’t like the fact of getting cat ears and stuff like that and he took away my phone so I can’t at ;east try to buy these all white cat ears with a little bit of pink on the tips of them but I have a problem, I know he’s not gonna get them but I don’t want to ask my grandma because she bought me masks even tho I think it’s kinda dumb to wear them but I have too but she also bought me two pairs of glasses the first pair was $99.00 and the other pair was $89.00, and she bought me more than that like a year ago, so someone please tell me what I could do to make one of them get it, but not seem mean or a spoiled brat, like those ones that always get stuff that is like $1,000 I want to just cosplay, that’s all I want, and I would just be happy with the cat and a white cat tail and then I would’t ask for anything else, done! But please someone tell me what I should do about this and also I don’t have any money so that’s why I’m not saying I can buy it, cause if I had enough money to buy the ears and a white tail for the ears and get my IPad I would be so happy and grateful! Well have a great day guys!!!

  3. OK. So my grandma keeps say no because every time u come back with a bad attitude and cursing and with the head lice I tried to convince her to let me go but everytime she says no so what do I do?

  4. My life is so messed up right now.. I’m in 9th and I want to pursue my dreams of becoming a fashion designer but my parents wont let me go to my dream school. I just do online school from home. And its so gut wrenching that one of my friends has the same dream and next year she will be starting her early college program. I will literally be left behind and the online school I go to I don’t even learn. But the only reason I do online school is because of family culture that a girl is not meant to have a job or career. They don’t want me to become anything but a house wife in the future. How do I change their minds? … Exactly their is no way to do it i’m just hopeless. chasing something that will never be in reach.😟😞😔

    1. Someone who hates life

      House wife my butt! I hate kids anyway, but that’s beside the point. Tradition is garbage and you should be able to have the freedom to do what you like. Go to that school and pursue your dream.

    2. So sorry for you! If your parents really won’t listen when you explain you want to be a fashion designer, just wait until you are old enough to move out. They can’t legally stop you then. Or try getting them to build some empathy, like; “What if YOUR parents had said you couldn’t be a (insert parent’s job here)?” They might understand better when compared to something easily grasped. Besides, some traditions are good, but some (like slavery in the US,) are not. Also, you might try asking your mom if she ever wanted to be anything beyond a housewife. Chances are, at some point in her life, she did. I hope you get to be a fashion designer some day!

    3. I really hope you get to go to the school you want to go to. Follow your dreams, and ignore your parents! I’m cheering for you 🙂

    4. Just simple weirdo :]

      Question: So my dream is to become a Korean Idol(yes I’m korean american), especially dance, but I don’t know where to start. Any help? Also, any tips on first day of dance classes? I’m 12, and I don’t know if I’m too late to start.

  5. hi im israel abikoye i have always had a dream to play football and i have been trying to convince my parents to join a football academy to help my football skills and movements improve so when i grow i can start professionally in the future but they keep on saying i should focus on my education first i told them i
    do not want to go to college that i want to play football but they keep on saying finish with your education and we all know starting young is better than starting late so what can i do can you guys help me.

  6. Shop like a lollipop

    Hi, I have a dream of being a performer. Especially a singer! I am in 7th grade and I need a start, but it’s really hard to get out there because of the Coronavirus. So I tried sneaking setting up a youtube channel but my parents found out. Now I read this and I just have one question, how long should I wait before I ask again?

    1. are you sure this trick works because I want to open a nerf gun which is supposed to come for my birthday by cane a few days early and I am very eger to open it now, though my exams are going on.

    2. Hiiii. reply to shop like a lollipop :Maybe a few weeks? Make sure to ask when they are both in a good, and calm mood, avoid using words like “I need, or I have to”, instead use words like “If I could, or if it’s ok with you”, etc. Make sure to be calm, and not yell at them if they say no. I’m also in seventh grade, and my parents are worried about my privacy online, so that might be the case for you, and they might be a little mad since you started a youtube channel without telling them. Good Luck!!😀

    3. Try to tell them the benefits of following your dreams. I’ve had to repeatedly ask my mum and dad, if I could create a channel before. They wanted to see some remixes and I showed them. They were convinced and let me post it. Maybe try showing your parents videos to impress them.

  7. Hi I really want to go back to school but my parents are scared ill catch covid 19. What should I do?!!!!!
    Ughhh ……

  8. Hi …… My name is zeek and my life is crazy, I’m depressed because if many things my family and I just don’t know what to do with my life I’m no were in the universe.. My parents freak out about every little thing, I could look at my little brother and she would freak out and say that all I do is bully him!!!! but a rely don’t even care about him and I don’t ever mess with him soo don’t know why the freak she is always ses that.. my siblings say the same thing that sha goes crazy soo I don’t know any more… help please ;( 🙁

  9. ugh i need help. im a bored teen who has nothing to do so i just write to this live chat. the dude who answers the questions is this guy named farhan and i keep annoying tf outta him and he disabled the chat for me LMFAOOO. this dumbass actually told me to respect him bc i might be working as a live chat answering thing. like Bitch no❤. btw this thing sucks. and remember, you suck, and unless your family lives in a 3 story house, makes 400k+ a year, you are irrelevant. k bye gonna go for a ride in my dads new Mercedes!!
    fuckingly yours,
    Jenna Bernstein

    go follow my insta!! its called republicanjenna, i make fun of liberals and fucking gay people. you wish you were me bitch

  10. sir my name is krish gupta and i want to become a film director in future but my parents are not agree so what should i do

  11. i dont have a phone proper ipad or anything but my parents know whats good for me i try my best but i dont think they know that or i would of had a phone or an ipad . my mom says its because im adicted to it but when she says get off i do but my brother doesnt i dont have any gamming consle or anything but i know if i keep working hard its gonna get better . so remember its gonna get worse before its gonna get better and thats come from a 11 year old (please excuse my spelling i cant type on pc ) .

  12. Jenna, it seems as if you have helped many people on here but you have said lots of hurtful things. Pleaseeee be nice and please don’t be homophobic. 🌈😁

  13. please what are you going to do go riot and burn down cities? like you did for the BLM protests? ‘nice and please don’t be homophobic’? you sound like those freaks who say ACAB. and you can’t ban me from this website as i have multiple accounts btw. you really thought disabling the live chat was going to do something. would it shock you to know that my name might not actually be Jenna? would it shock you to know you have absolutely no idea who i am and what i can do? it’s not a threat, it’s a promise. this is very entertaining, but i should probably go, as I have homework to do; or do i? xoxo ‘jenna’

    Hurry up and respond before my dad gets home we’re going to dinner together

  14. and don’t worry, it’s not a serious threat, however, 4 terms of tech classes really helped off. and it probably doesn’t help you case that i’m emailing my grandpa to help take your website down. you think this is a joke? my identity will be revealed on December 14, 2022. I wish to see you then. Your website will be taken down just a day before, on December 13. this is not a joke, nor a threat- if you take it the right way. let me speak my words, or your website is no more. goodbye for now, and if you will not take me seriously, i’m afraid it’s too late.

  15. and i do not understand; who have i helped? if you are talking about the girl under the name ‘Jenna’ in the chat who talked to some 7th grader, how do you know it was advice? i feel joy knowing you have no idea what i am speaking about. lets hope ‘shop like a lollipop’, is still safe in her small home in Florida. hmm..

  16. I want to go to school in person but my parents keep saying no since I’m not allowed to take certain medications such as ibuprofen, which usually takes fever away in case I did get sick. Does anyone have any tips on persuading my parents to let me go?

  17. but don’t worry. i will reveal my identity one day. this will be my final time responding to this website, for exactly one month. on March 2, 2021, I will be back. goodbye

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